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作者:Lemon  2019/03/31 17:33:03

同情心与同理心仅一字之差,却有着天壤之别,短片《同理心的力量》给了我们一个很好的比喻So,what is empathy?Why is it very different than sympathy?

在短片中,同理心是这样的一种隐秘之处,当某人掉入一个很深的地洞,从底端发出呼喊“I'm stuck,it’s duck,and I'm overwhelmed”

“我被击垮了!”

同理心和同情心在此时会有何种表现呢?同理心的你试图感同身受,告诉他“Hey,I know what it's like down here,and you are not alone."(“我知道这种感觉,但你要知道你并不孤单。”)

Empathy is a choice and it's a vulnerable choice.In order to connect with you,I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling.

同理心是种选择,容易受伤的选择,因为你必须找出相似的连结,找出内心能与他相呼应的情绪。

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来个同情心的他''Ooh!it's bad,uh-huh?''“喔不~ 这真的满难受的耶!好可怜喔!"并试着分散注意力、扯开话题''Uh...No,You want a sandwich?''“那~ 要不要先吃块三明治?或许你会好一些。”

当人们听到有人向自己倾诉难过的事时,常常给予的是〝一线希望〞''I have a miscarriage.''〝我流产了〞''At least you know,you can get pregnant''〝没关系,至少你知道你能怀孕〞I think my marriage is falling apart.''〝我婚姻要破裂了〞''At least you have a marriage.''〝至少你有这段婚姻〞''John's getting kicked out of school.''〝John要被退学了〞''At least Sarah is a A-student.''〝至少Sarah是资优生〞

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我们在面对艰难的话题时,总希望能让事情好转一些,但我想,当我向你倾诉难过的事时我宁可你对我说...''I don't even know what to say,I'm just so glad you told me.''(我现在不知道我能说些什么,但我很高兴你愿意跟我说。)

感受到了同理心的力量,同样短片也告诉了我们,如何成为一个有同理心的人.

一、接受观点

Perspective taking-ability to take the perspective of another person or recognise their perspective as their truth.

二、拒绝评判

Staying out of judgment-not easy when you enjoy it as much as most of us do.

三、感知他人心中的情感,基于这个共同的情感进行沟通。

Recognising emotion in other people,then communicating that.

同理心的力量,在于它强大的感染力,当你想要安慰别人时,你该给予的,不是同情心,而是同理心!

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